Why You Might Not Be As Happy As You Could Be

Posted on by Olivia Hatton

Lets face it, we can always find something to fix about ourselves. Whether it is our weight, hair, fitness level, diet, bad habits… but why should our happiness be effected by it? Ultimately we are the only ones who have control of our emotions. Here are four suggestions why you may not be as happy as you could be:

1. You feel out of control.

Maybe there are days when your to-do list is falling past your feet, and there just seems to be too much on your plate.  There are only 24 hours in the day but you need at least 56 to get everything done. Deep breathes, because here is the truth: You can conquer anything. You have full control. You could burn the list if you wanted to (warning: fire hazard). Don’t let the length of your to-do list control you. Scratch each thing off one at a time. Confidence is key. If you think, “I can do this,” it is amazing what you are capable of.

2. You work too much.

It is easy to get caught up at work. Projects, co-workers, papers, and the time just seems to fly by (most the time). But don’t let your job consume you. Here is one hard truth: At work, you can be replaced. Yes, you need money. Yes, you need to “do something” with your life. Just be sure your priorities are kept straight. Have time to yourself. Explore what life has to offer. If you are working too much, take a step back, and you will feel a weight lifted off your shoulders.

3. Your relationship status.

If you’ve been single for a while, you may feel like you are in a slump. You may not feel “wanted” or “appreciated” as often as you would like. Don’t let being single tear you down. You are a beautiful, smart, and kind person. Take this time to discover yourself. Don’t try and change yourself to fit someone else’s routine, because the right one will fall into yours.  If you are in a relationship and not married, take a step back and make sure this is what you really want. Is he/she good to you? Do your friends and family approve? If not, why? If you ever question your relationship, dig a little further and find out why. There may be something your missing.

4. You keep judging yourself.

You keep wanting more from yourself. Your weight, relationships, career title. Stop trying so hard. Stop judging yourself. You are beautiful. You are confident. You are you. Take a deep look in the mirror and focus on what you do have. A job, education, a roof over your head, friends, family, anything you can think of. You can always lose weight or switch careers. Be grateful to yourself for how much you have accomplished in life and for the wonderful person you’ve become. I’m sure it wasn’t easy to get where you are, but you did it. You might have had some help along the way, but don’t short yourself credit. Congratulate yourself.

We sometimes forget to look back and see at how much we have accomplished or changed. Don’t forget to hit the pause button and make sure everything is in line with how you want it to be. Making the time for yourself and making goals and dreams for yourself will keep you motivated and on track to become the happiest person you can be.